Questions families ask
Everything from how the request system works to what happens to your photographs if you delete your account.
About the service
Is this a dating app?
No. There is no chat, no inbox, no swiping and no browsing of anyone's photographs. It is a matrimonial listing service built for families who are looking for marriage.
Do you arrange the marriage yourself?
No. We provide the search and the introduction, and the families decide everything after that. We do not search on anyone’s behalf, put profiles forward, negotiate, mediate or attend meetings. Once a number is shared, the families take it from there on WhatsApp.
Who can join?
Anyone 18 or older who is Muslim, legally free to marry, and genuinely seeking marriage. We remove profiles from people who are already married or misrepresenting themselves.
Can parents create a profile for their child?
Yes, and many do. Choose 'My daughter' or 'My son' at registration and nominate yourself as the guardian contact.
Privacy and photographs
Who can see my photographs?
Nobody, unless you personally accept their request. Photos are locked by default and stay locked until you release them, one member at a time.
Can somebody screenshot my photos after I accept?
Technically yes, which is why unlocked photographs carry a watermark with the viewer's member ID, downloads are disabled and images are served at reduced resolution. If a photo of yours appears anywhere it should not, that watermark tells us exactly who to remove.
Can I take back access I already gave?
Yes. Open your dashboard, find the member under Requests Accepted, and revoke. They lose access immediately.
Is my phone number ever shown publicly?
Never. It is released only to a member whose request you accepted, and only if you chose to share your own number rather than a guardian's.
Do you sell member data?
No. We do not sell, rent or share member data with advertisers or other matchmaking services.
Requests
What happens when I send a request?
The other member is notified. They can see your entire profile before deciding. They accept or decline, and you are told the outcome. Nothing is shared on a decline.
Will I know why somebody declined?
No, and neither will they if you decline. Declining is silent and requires no explanation.
Can I send the same person repeated requests?
No. After a decline you cannot request that profile again for thirty days. Pending requests expire after seven days.
How many requests can I send?
Photo requests are free and unlimited within a sensible daily cap that stops bulk sending. Requests for a WhatsApp number use your connection tokens: one token is held when you send, spent only if they accept, and returned in full if they decline. A membership carries 10 tokens.
Can I attach a message to a request?
A single note of up to 200 characters, once. It is not a conversation and there is no reply function.
Payment and packages
What does it cost?
One membership: Rs 3,000 (normally Rs 5,000) for 90 days and 10 connection tokens. Buy again whenever you like for a fresh 10 tokens and a fresh 90 days, starting from that day. During the launch period membership is free.
Are fees refundable?
No. Access to the database begins immediately on activation, so fees are non-refundable. This is stated before you pay and in the terms you accept.
How can I pay?
Visa, Mastercard, JazzCash, Easypaisa or bank account, all on our payment provider’s secure page. We never see or store your card or wallet details.
Does my package renew automatically?
No. Nothing is charged again unless you buy another package yourself.
How long does activation take?
It is instant. The payment provider confirms the payment to us directly and your membership activates at that moment, with 10 fresh tokens and 90 fresh days. There is no reference to type and no waiting for anyone to approve it.
Profiles and verification
Do I have to upload a photograph?
No, and we would rather say so plainly than let anyone assume otherwise. In a great many Pakistani families a daughter's picture is simply not circulated, and forcing one would either turn those families away or push them into sharing something they are uncomfortable with. A profile without photographs is listed identically to any other, is never ranked lower, and carries no mark. You choose one of three positions on your profile — share on request, share once the families have spoken, or do not share at all — and it is stated openly so nobody has to ask.
What if someone requests photos and I have none?
They cannot. If you have uploaded nothing, or have chosen not to share photographs, the request button does not appear for your profile. Nobody is left waiting for an answer you were never going to give, and you are never put in the position of refusing.
Is there a phone number I can call?
No, and that is deliberate. ByahMe is an app-based service and everything runs through your account and your email. It means every request, decision and payment leaves a record you can point to later, instead of a phone call nobody can verify. Email us and a person replies, usually the same working day.
Do you verify members?
We confirm that each member controls the email address they registered with, and nothing more. We do not check identity documents, employment, income or marital status, and we will not pretend otherwise. Every other check is yours to make before you meet anyone.
How do I report a fake profile?
Use the report link on the profile, or email complaints@ with the profile ID. A person reviews every report.
Can I hide my profile temporarily?
Yes. Pause it from your dashboard and it disappears from search without being deleted.
How do I delete my account permanently?
Account Settings, then Delete account. Your profile, photographs and request history are permanently removed.
Begin the search with your family beside you
Free to publish a profile during launch. Photographs and contact numbers stay yours until you decide otherwise.